05 July 2010

My Sins against the Gender stereotypes:Tag

Cee Kay tagged me!
This is an interesting tag - originated at IndianHomeMaker's. Following are the rules:

Please list at least ten things you have ever wanted or done which your gender is not supposed to.
The tag is called ‘My Sins against Gender-Stereotypes’. And you must tag twelve blogging friends or else you will be cursed to wear blue clothes pants if you are a woman and pink shirts if you are a man – for next twelve years.
Boy! How do I manage to always land in such trouble? Doesn't matter, it delights me to think that I have an opportunity to take down 12 more with me .. laugh now at my expense friends laugh .... but I'll get my share eventually.. har har har..


But the stereotypes thing is posing a problem!! lets see how this goes
1. I never had girl/lady friends till I got married! My wife refused /refuses to believe me. "Not even a Crush?" she asked ... the answer is same.. 'Nope'. Of course the rider is that if you don't count gaping at all girls as Crush :)
2. If you didn't see this one coming in the earlier sentence here it is.. I have quite a few lady friends now that am married. I say so, coz for some reason, I believe ladies seem to find it safer to talk to me after they gain the "KNOWLEDGE" that am married and have kids :) I asked myself why it is so.. the best answer I came up with is the same as what Chandler Bing got from his gang of F.R.I.E.N.D.S, I perhaps have a 'quality' that makes me look threatening to women! Of course that is until they realize that I'm settled in life. Don't ask me to berate this any further.
3. I don't consume Alcohol . Nuff said
4. I don't smoke. Don't know if this is a stereotype though. Not every guy smokes
5. I like to cook! and I like to experiment a little too! My best ever concoction is Ginger Rasam.. made it up myself. Don't know if one exists 'officially'.
6. I prefer living in India (chennai to be precise.. ) to living in US and came back for the same reason
7. I'm scared of lizards!
8. I cried after watching TZP.I remember pulling over the car near Mylapore on the way back from Satyam Cinemas , crying my heart out and then resuming home.. There it is i've said it
9. According to my wife we get into fights often. In our world fights are when she shouts and I listen apologetically.
10.I thought Pratibha Patil was a hot young lady until she took oath. (no thats not true, I made that one up to make it ten.. What? this is disqualified? alright, bring out the firing squad.. )
11. Ok ok.. here is a lame one.. i hate shopping for clothes. Even if its for me..
12. I don't like to comb/style my hair.I wear it really short.... why? Its hair.. !!! didn't you read that.


Here is the best part!! tagging others... rubbing my hands in glee.. alright who goes first? its the missus..
1. Caramelhill
2. Lavanya
3. Aparna
4. Vidya
5. Hema

Alright I don't have 7 more friends to tag okay. Fine go ahead and decide that am a loser.. don't care.. guess what you can't tag me back and tag the ones i've tagged.. so all the best ha ha ha ha ha hah a ha ha ha.. .ha ha ha h a fading into silence....

10 June 2010

Its about my Sibling citizens : Srilankans

Long long ago in our neighboring country was founded an organization that like many of its times vowed to fight for the cause of Tamils to rise and question the atrocities committed by a government on its own people. People who ran hither tither turned around and united under these movements to fight back. As time passed, one movement that called itself the tiger of all movements killed its own brethren and became the king of the hill.
As years turned decades, governments changed and the world changed. The world lines relatively blurred and economies merged and the world unified more than ever before. On the sidelines, terrorism became a common menace. Soon there were different flavours, jihadists, talibans, maoists and many others, all of them said they fought for the cause of their people.
Battles became wars and rivers turned red and cities became ruins and people became just living creatures. More blood was shed than the cause that started the whole war and more was lost than achieved in the process. The very people whose cause was being fought by these organizations started running away from them. Maimed, deprived of living, education, hygiene, they wanted no part in the war, they just wanted to be left alone, their newer generations did not even understand why they were living in constant fear.They were not alone, having tried its best to draw a truce, the world grew tired of it as well.
Finally, it had to end one way or the other and it did. Now , the world is all eyes on the government to see how it rehabilitates its citizens and gives them the much needed support. How will this happen, I wonder. The answer lies in the world history, we often underestimate the resilience and capability of human beings. A brief look at our own history tells us that there were millions and millions of people that were killed, maimed, raped and kidnapped in a war that we called partition. Many lost their families and wealth and were reduced to paupers in a stroke that rooted them out of their homes and transplanted them to the streets of cold Delhi, Punjab and West Bengal. Millions of them were farmers and knew nothing else. Deprived off their land, they couldn't farm! The government tried its best to give them land to farm and houses to live. It was far from adequate. People were given meager allotments. This is history, today, one hears that these very people are one of the most patriotic, successful, daring and prosperous people of this country. How did they achieve it? Pure hard work and perseverance. They tilled the soil whether it was cultivable or not and they went about in a bull headed manner and just achieved it despite years of droughts that followed Independence. Thankfully the British did not scream at Nehru saying he was not doing enough. They just did not care if the country went to the dogs.
It shows us that there is nothing time cannot heal and there is nothing that can stop a man from succeeding when it comes to survival , however bleak the situation might seem.

What I wish for the people of my community in my neighbouring country is the same, let there be peace, let the wounds heal, let there be quiet, let them have a new beginning that has been denied to them for so long by the war. Let the lines of division blur, let them live together as one nation, let them give another shot at building trust among their own people, let them rebuild their homes, let them get a chance to educate their children, let them produce a thousand Muthaiah Muralitharans, let them have a chance to prosper and enjoy life the way it should be, let them spend quiet evenings with their grand children, let there be happiness in the air that has been bereft of even a child's smile for decades.
As a brother nation, let us support the cause of unification, let us not be the cause for wounds to remain unhealed, Let us stop drawing afresh the lines of division, let us try and erase them,let us help them rebuild the nation Let us stop spreading the poison of vengeance, let us spread love and not hatred. I love my country and I'm proud that am an Indian and a Tamil. Let us also give them a chance to redeem their pride as a Srilankan and a Tamil too

04 June 2010

According to me this blogathon should have been preponed.

Sue has started a red marker blogathon that goes like this. Follow the chain.
In short this is about common mistakes in spoken/written language that irks you. Well, to begin with, I myself make so many of them and am not even a light year close to perfect. Did I mention that am not a saint either? I do notice and pinpoint mistakes in language when others make them.
Phew, I got it off my chest! Now, let me get to the rant.
Prepone
About ten years or so back and until recently, I used to be really annoyed with the Indian antonym of the English word 'Postpone'. We Indians  used the word 'Prepone' to indicate an advancement of an event to an earlier schedule than initially announced.
The function has been preponed.
I used to gleefully correct people that there exists no such word 'Prepone'. Alas, my pleasure was short lived. One fine morning, I was reading the newspapers that carried a column on newly added words to the English language dictionary. To my utter dismay and horror, the Englishmen had given in and legitimized the word 'prepone' giving it legitimacy and place in the dictionary. I was so angry that day. How dare someone deprieve me off my right to ridicule? :). I would have been one of the few miffed folks in the world to read this news.
I still cannot bring myself around to use that horrible sounding word. Talk about prejudice :)

According to me
The other one is a recent usage amongst even educated folks. 'According to me' is the usage. A friend was giving her opinion on the pricing of a piece of real estate and she went.. 'According to me , this is is overpriced'. For a second, I was left thinking that she was referring to a Chinese friend named 'Mei'. I realized then that she was referring to herself. I then told her to just simply put it as 'The is overpriced is my (humble) opinion' or even simpler. "I think this is overpriced." How difficult is that?

Smileys
Here is another thing I wish to legitimize in English. Smileys! :) :D >:-0 without these smileys. The other day I wrote to a client a reminder to send me a document that he owed me.
The exact words I wrote was 'Hi X, This is a follow up to my earlier email on the subject. I'm writing to just remind you that I need this document by ... date. Could you please ensure that I have it before the said date to help me continue my work'.
I thought this was polite enough for a reminder.However it was not meant to be. The client had complained to my VP that I was being rude. This was a client I have known for more than a few years! I was quite taken aback. After reading my note to the gentleman a dozen times, I concluded that my tonality has been misinterpreted by the client(he was probably having a bad day!) and it had nothing to do with what I had written. So I made a small correction to my email to present here
'Hi X, This is a follow up to my earlier email on the subject. I'm writing to just remind you that I need this document by ... date. Could you please ensure that I have it before the said date to help me continue my work :)'

That would have helped my client a lot in realizing that I was not being rude/stern with him and I was just doing business as usual. One can argue that my mail should have been sprinkled with how are yous and take cares to make it look nice. One can also argue that my client has a problem. There would be no end to this.
The sticking point would still be that such things are bound to happen. I realized that I preferred using smileys in place of unnecessary 'how are yous and hope you are doing alrights.' in a business note. I however realize that smileys may not entirely professional either and hence this rant.

03 June 2010

Green Revolution in Indian IT Industry needs pragmatic solutions

We have been long receiving email after email in espousing the virtues of going green and reducing carbon emissions. The email spoke about how travel is the prime contributor for carbon emissions. The email advises us to
i. Carpool - Imagine all the money one can save on petrol
ii. Cycle to work Apparently its good for your heart!
iii. Walk down. Smell the roses on the way!

Setting aside my reaction to this email and coming to the response, I believe that the email cannot be far from what is practical in an Indian IT context. The list above suits an European or an American office better.
Let me list down the obvious to state why the above list will not work in most Indian IT organizations
Car pooling
Yes, with the ever rising car population in India, this seems like a logical step. However the only fly in the ointment is that no Indian IT house works by the clock. This is not by choice, this is more by necessity.Each team works on different clocks and each individual's work hours are driven by the vagaries of their own work load, pull of the duties at home and what not. Given the state of affairs and without getting to the worn out 'Get your work life balance in order moron routine', we can safely state that the probability is very low that two or more workers who live in the same route would be able to synchronize the time they leave for home from work.
Its almost always a problem with returning home than arriving at work. I will go out on a limb and state that its almost feasible to expect pooling to work and next to impossible to pool on the way back for the above reason.
Given this fact, how does one expect to return home when the owner of the car is long gone. Its unfair for the entire pool to expect to stay back when one guy is held up. Doing so only works against the  cause of pooling. The next time around you will promptly see people dropping off the pool. "Oh, never mind, I will use my car to work today' and before you know it, the pool is no longer one! I say this from experience.

Instead, if the corporate or the government introduce an efficient mass transport system that services key areas of the city and its suburbs or even the nearest railway station, it would be immensely feasible for the entire workforce to use the facility to hop to work and back! Located at MRC nagar, i would be immensely happy if my office operates a bus service that picks up and drops people from the nearest MRTS station and Mandaveli! I would just catch the next available train to Tiruvanmiyur and then a share auto home for less than twenty  rupees per day which works out to be good value and not to mention savings.

Cycling to work and walking to work: I only have this to say. Have you tried this in Chennai and to work? I had a colleague almost 10 years back who used to cycle to work out of necessity and not choice. Problem? He stank of sweat all day. Majority of Indian IT houses that operate in the city do not have bath facilities in their buildings even if one wishes to cycle to work and wash up before starting. Given the hot Chennai weather, this is not going to work either.
I do not wish to be a naysayer for Green initiatives, my annoyance here is to do with the feasibility of the initiatives.

14 May 2010

Hey Ram-

Its a movie review that I log ten years after the movie was released. It was year 2000 when this movie was released and I was then living in the US. I remember being all excited about the much hyped up movie. The glitzy star cast was making it even more juicy.
We made reservations and undertook a 160 mile journey to New Jersey from Connecticut just to watch the movie. When the credits rolled at the end of the movie, I was left with a sense of emptiness. I had no reactions to the movie. I realized that I did not entirely grasp the inner workings of Saket Ram, the protagonist.
I told myself, "Ha it is your problem, you cannot understand Hindi well and the movie used many languages as well scenes seamlessly jumping from Hindi to english to tamil, Bengali and Marathi at times"
I ended up watching the film twice more, once in tamil and again in VHS with sub titles. Well, i was astounded and shocked that I still could not grasp it. Upon checking with some good friends, I realized I wasn't the only one.. Phew! I was almost convinced that I had lost a bit of my neural cabbage that sits between my ears.
Fast forward Ten years. Year 2010. By now I have read India after Gandhi, by Ramachandra Guha and am half way into 'A Bend in the Ganges. a novel by Manohar Malgaonkar' and many other art films and serious films later, I believed that I should try watching this movie again and I did thanks to a friend who lent me his video.
Boy, I loved the film now. I would perhaps rate this second only to Anbe Sivam which ranks as the best ever Indian film I've watched.
I will not bother giving the complete story here, but rather would like to appreciate the many aspects of the film. Kamalahassan has a death grip on the screenplay. Frame after frame, characters come to life and their many layered nature comes to the fore.
Like all Kamal's films, this one also has Kamal all the way. He performs and performs like a veteran. From the ever vacillating Saket Ram, the average joe who wants to break away from the traditional Tam Brahm life to the raging lunatic who wants to do anything to avenge his Aparna to the mature husband who embraces the young and timid Mythili. Kamal is completely in his element through and through. It is gut wrenching watching him walk senselessly through the rooms of his Calcutta residence trying to come to grips with reality of Aparna's murder. Limping and walking aimlessly room after room while Thiru's awesome camera perched outside the balcony helps the viewer watch him go from room after room, limping with a hurt leg.
The eye for detail is astounding through the movie. For instance, in a scene where Kamal is driving through Calcutta as he returns home to Aparna, he is surrounded by mobs who throw tomatoes at his car and he manages to drive through. Later in a different scene, when the car drives up the porch of his home, one can see dried tomato stains on the window glass. Its a small thing, but it shows that the unit cared for this detail.
Another instance where Kamal is led through a hospital by a doctor who shows the damage the violence has caused to the society, Kamal sees a small girl with her feet amputated. She cries and she cries 'Ammii.. Ammii.. ' you almost feel the pain and she cries like a child who has cried long and hard and cannot stop herself. This, again is a small detail, but it is astounding that Kamal thought it fit to give attention to the way the child cried. Amazing! 
Again, the star studded cast provide a terrific punch to all the supporting cast through the movie. With the exception of the legendary Hema Malini (who for a dancer still cannot emote!), the entire cast of Saket Ram's tam brahm household pack a punch and is utterly realistic in the language, behaviour and extremely witty in a way only a Tam Brahm household can be.  This family single handedly provide a comic relief to what otherwise would have been an extremely serious movie. Kamal and his casting director needs a standing ovation just for this.
Kamal's prowess in weaving his characters also need a standing ovation. If Aparna was a temperamental, sensual, fiercely independent within the house and yet afraid of the society, Mythili is a study in contrast. The well read, strong minded and yet an obedient girl who will not dare counter her elder's words. Vasundhra shines thanks to the weighty script and dialouges seamlessly jumping between the many shades of Mythili. One moment a timid wife, the next, a strong and opinionated Gandhian who will not be coerced into accepting what her husband believes to be the bane of the country and the next, a young adolescent. who asks her husband of sometime, "Can I hug you?". You also feel sorry for her innocence in waiting to be accepted by Ram as his wife even after they are married.
Atul Kulkarni's, Abhyankar is a strong willed and hard minded Hindutva who will not hesitate to cleanse the nation of its muslim stains as he puts it. At the same time, Shah Rukh's excellent Ahmad Khan espouses Gandhian ideology like a level headed Muslim. In the midst of stereotype Muslim terrorists, Ahmad Khan's mussalman is a kind who often do not get enough screen space in Indian cinema. . Kudos to Kamal for doing something different. However, Shah Rukh Khan's acting ten years back was nothing to write home about. He has scaled many heights since then in the last decade, but somehow his Ahmad Khan does not strike a chord with me. Ahmad Khan's Nafisa from Ambur, however leaves a punch even if she got only 2 minutes of dialogues in the entire film. During the final stages of the film, Ahmad Khan is injured and police take him away in a stretcher to a hospital. A worried Nafisa comes out asking Ram "where is Ahmad." . Kamal is distraught with all the violence that he had unintentionally initiated and is unable to speak coherently and he simply points in the direction of the stretcher. She then proceeds to ask him to tell her that Ahmad is fine and Kamal mumbles something. Nafisa, as each millisecond passes, expecting a 'yes, he is alright' from Ram,  is terrified and confused by his strange reaction and is getting worked up and tries to elicit a proper response from him and implores him to talk louder.. "Aanh?".... "Aanh?" she goes rising in pitch and fear. This scene happens perhaps for five seconds in the film. Yet, it stands out for its natural portrayal of characters of the terrified wife and a distraught Ram who is sick of the violence.
There are even many moments in the film when much is said without dialogues. When Ram meets Lalvani on a roadside after the riots and when he has joined the Hindutva brigade, they embrace each other crying when they find out that both have lost their entire family in the riots, the Maharaja and Abhyankar seated in the car watching them exchange glances that spark fury as though to say.. "Look what this Mahatma has given the commom man of this country. He has given only misery and poverty. This is why we must finish him off".  Again, this shows how much the film was ahead of its times in a filmdom known for its punch dialogues and elaborate explanations for even the inane of intentions.
If there is something Kamal needs to work on, it is with moderating the protagonist's sexual appetite in his movies. Almost all of Kamal's protagonists feature a stereotype of insatiable hunger for sex. Well, even if Kamal claims otherwise, his frames speak out aloud.
Illayaraja's score is power packed and Kamal did the right thing in roping in the veteran replacing
 L.Subramaniam though for different reasons. The background music adds flavour to the movie without makings its presence felt aloud.  The piano intro of 'Nee Partha' by Asha Bhonsle would forever be etched in everyone's memories for its strong and yet simple notes. The point when the Violins and the base guitar join the piano tunes, one is transfixed in the heavenly sound the three instruments produce. This tune will join the ranks of Nayagan's Thenpaandi cheemayilae intro as one of his best ever.
The crisp editing of Renu Saluja keeps the overly long movie (3 hours and 20 minutes) tight and gives shape to the director's Hey Ram!
I can go on and on.But it would only be just to say that this film was way ahead of its times and assumed an intelligent audience to get into the inner workings of Saket Ram and that proved to be a tough nut for many audience like me. But, boy, am glad I watched it again and this will join my list of best films i've ever watched.

07 May 2010

Where to buy Camera Accessories and Equipment in Chennai

When I wanted to buy camera accessories such as tripods, flashes, strobes, off camera flashes, hot shoe adapter, cold shoe adapter, super clamp, umbrella, diffusers and all such hobbyist or professional studio equipment, I called all high profile camera stores and could not find any of them even stocking decent camera equipment for hobbyist. All they had were P&S and DSLRs, Memory cards, cases etc.,
I tried Camera Citi, Shetala and all such high profile stores. Finally through a gentleman in Flickr, I found out that there exists an area in Chennai that is the Ritchie street for Cameras.
There is a whole plaza full of them at
 Fazl Complex 
Wallajah Road.
 Chennai
 
I was referred to INDIA PHOTO HOUSE in this complex.

How to get there
From Beach Road (Marina)
From Chepauk Stadium proceed straight towards Mount road
 This complex opposite to the new TN Assembly  building on Wallajah Road Itself (DONT GO TO MOUNT ROAD)
This complex is a couple of stores next to Radio warehouse.


From Mount Road.
Take the right next to Shanti Theater / VGP before the secretariat to enter Wallajah Road
Proceed down Wallajah Road to take the first available U-Turn.
Proceed back towards Mount Road find out Radiowarehouse. This building is a couple of stores next to Radio warehouse and opposite to the new TN Assembly complex. Remember this is on Wallajah Road NOT MOUNT ROAD.

I'm writing this hoping that search engines would catch this and some hapless person searching like me would come across this.

Finally, a note of thanks to Mr.Pradeep whose lead made me check this place out.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/epradeep/

29 April 2010

Why does it still rain in India?

Alright, this is nothing about rain.
The last few weeks I've been scouting Adyar area shops for a set of Sanyo Eneloop batteries. These are the best alternative to Alkaline Duracells in the rechargeable world. Unfortunately, I could not find any.
So, I tried to give ebay.in a shot and to my surprise I found a few sellers selling those. However, I needed four batteries to power my strobe /Flash unit and so I ordered a charger and a set of four batteries from an online vendor.
The vendor had listed the charger to ship free and a fifty rupee charge for shipping the battery. Fair enough I thought and coughed up the money.
The seller was prompt and shipped it out within two hours of my ordering it and I received it the third day! I received a tiny surprise when I opened the shipment!
Tucked deep inside and wrapped in a sheet of paper was fifty rupees! The seller had bundled the charger and the batteries together and had refunded my fifty rupees shipping charge!
Well, as logical as it may sound, I was quite taken aback at the honesty of this vendor! The honesty of this vendor came as quite a shock and surprise having gotten used to all vendors always asking more for their wares! Here is a vendor who is honest to his profession!
May he prosper! His name is basco4u and he sells in ebay!

Does this answer the question?